Loneliness
Lots of us struggle with loneliness…
Do you lack connections in your world?
You could be in a room of people and still not feel connected to anyone. You feel alone, like someone in a little raft in the middle of the ocean.
Do you feel isolated… regardless of where you are or who’s around?
The people or places that used to bring you joy don’t anymore. It sort of feels like nothing works.
Are you burned out or exhausted when trying to be social?
You overextend yourself by making yourself do things/commit to things, but then wind up feeling tired or exhausted after pushing yourself extremely hard, out of your comfort zone.
Do you feel alienated in your work or other relationships?
It’s hard for you to connect with other people. You have ruminating thoughts about what other people will think of you. You feel different than other people.
Have you experienced the loss of a loved one or a sudden breakup?
Now it feels like there is a hole or gap in your heart. So you fill that hole with different things, but nothing really works or makes you feel better.
Are you feeling empty and alone as you work at home?
You thought you’d enjoy working at home, by yourself. But you’re beginning to notice yourself feel down, disconnected. It almost feels like you’re drifting, and not sure where you’re drifting to or why.
Living a life of loneliness can be so discouraging. It can feel like no one really understands…or even cares. Maybe you’ve tried doing a couple of things here or there to make yourself feel a little better or perk you up a bit, but it doesn’t work. You’re still left with yourself.
Maybe having thoughts like “will this feeling ever go away? Will I ever feel better or ‘normal’?” It can feel even more isolating when the people around you all have someone, and it feels like you have no one.
You notice that it’s hard to make new friends or meet new people. It’s more comfortable to stay disconnected and isolated even though that’s not truly what you want.
It seems like everyone has someone. Except for you, that is.
Long-term loneliness can negatively affect your health.
Over time, loneliness can lead to weight gain, problems concentrating, high blood pressure, substance use, depression, and heart disease.
Loneliness can affect people’s appetite in different ways. Some people experience a loss of appetite or lose their taste for food or turn to food as an emotional coping mechanism.
Some loneliness cases can stem from depression and studies have shown that forgetfulness and problems concentrating have been linked to depression. Memory problems can make it challenging to focus at work, school, or other daily responsibilities/tasks.
Chronic feelings of loneliness affect blood pressure and increase your risk of heart disease. Because physical and mental health is intertwined, the body absorbs and stores the stress of loneliness, impacting the heart.
Loneliness and isolation can give rise to addiction. Many people turn to substances because they are lonely – and many people are lonely because they turn to substances.
Loneliness doesn’t have to be a fact of life. I’m here to help…
We’ll create a space for you to reconnect to yourself.
In this space, you can vent, yell, scream, process, think out loud everything that goes on in your mind, even some of the things that maybe you’re embarrassed to admit that you feel or think.
You’ll develop a sense of fulfillment without the need for other people or things.
You’ll feel like you know yourself clearer and better; you’ll become best friends with yourself in such a way that you won’t feel like you need to rely on other people or on things like substances or food to cope.
You’ll gain the tools you need to sustain a deeper connection with yourself (and others).
We’ll create a path for you to become more in-tune with yourself, to help you get yourself out of feeling lonely and isolated, and into loving and caring for yourself.
You’ll learn how to reserve space for self-awareness and self-love.
You’ll move away from feeling isolated, down, and lonely to a place where you understand why you feel the way you do and move towards developing a love for yourself.
In working together, we’ll explore when you experience loneliness the most. We’ll dig into what narrative and story you create that contribute to your feelings of loneliness in this time. Our work together will help you to rewrite that narrative/story.
We observe your relationship with yourself and how you’ve been able to practice a life of integrity. We’ll work on building your self-worth through practicing being your word (having integrity with yourself) and affirmations that resonate and connect to you.
I help clients confront, address, and resolve/overcome loneliness issues by establishing a loving relationship with themselves. We’ll reduce your feelings of loneliness by shifting towards liking yourself and finding affirmations effective for you.
You’ll create new patterns of behavior through spotting when you beat yourself up, or when you tend to start telling yourself that negative story/narrative; and instead, build yourself up, fill yourself up with thoughts that have you feel positive and good about yourself.
Old behaviors can look like tearing yourself apart or putting yourself down – thoughts like “I’m not good enough. No one likes me. No one will ever like me. I’ll never find my person.”
New behavior patterns are better because they’ll have you feeling like you don’t need anyone else or anything else to feel happy.
Life doesn’t have to feel like a black hole!
Working together, you’ll gain a love for yourself and learn to be okay in your own body. You’ll feel less lonely and more excited to enjoy your own company.
You don’t have to feel alone!
Email me today and let’s schedule your complimentary 15- to 30-minute discovery session: Dani@DaniLaBarrie.com.